Table Manners and Etiquettes

TABLE MANNERS & ETIQUETTE:

  • The world is round and manners aren't square.Table manners and social etiquettes must be a way of life. 

  • Meals are social events do it is essential to practice and develop good manners.This include setting up the table,serving others,and yourself as well,using utensils and cleaning it up.It can also mean dealing with those unexpected dining difficulties,such as specific allergies,unruly children or guests that over wear their stay.
  • As with any social situation consideration for those around you can make a difference to the outcome.
  • Children and ignorant adults who just lead their lives blindfoldedly in ignorance henceforth do not even bother to learn civic etiquettes,social etiquettes or etiquettes related to different aspects of life.
  • But there is nothing to worry because good table manners are important skills which they will develop in the course of time following their elders,parents or civilized community members.
  • The approach of teaching tender hearts,rules should be simple and be in practice.
  • Adults should never forget that they are never alone,the little curious eyes are always watching them and capturing their lice activities as the best in their innocent brain,be it at the dining table,greeting people or answering over the phone,in fact with everything they do or say.
  • It's the reflection of your own home your child is being raised in.
  • There is no end of learning.People of all ages,in their individual phases of life keep on learning new ways,following new ideas and in a way promoting their own ways of life.
  • Parenting is not about only teaching good manners and table etiquette;it is also about teaching the children the social etiquette.
  • Please do not banish your kids to their playroom or computer room,let them mingle and participate with the adults where in a way they will learn manners that the adults inherit.
  • Moreover the adult company will help them to be confident,comfortable most importantly they will feel home and the outcome will be beneficial in all phases of lives.
  • True politeness is a language of a good heart,and those possessing the heart will never,under any circumstances,be rude.
  • Ignorant community members may not enter a crowded saloon gracefully,may be entirely ignorant of the forms of good society,they may be awkward at table,ungrammatical in speech;but they may never be heard speaking so as to wound the feelings of another; they will be self sacrificing,friendly,unselfish truly in word and deed,polite.
  • Having good table manners is somehow extremely important not only in a way that you are expressing your respect for others but it also expresses your level of maturity and origin.
  • Therefore it's wise to remember that poor table manners can be a worst first impression.
  • Table manners for kids and ignorant adults must be simple or normal ways of life.Always praise and reinforce good behavior. Any meals of the day must be a quality time with the family.
Table manners----rules which may help your children to lead an example: Wash your hands thoroughly before eating:
  • No toys,no pets to be brought to the table.

 
  • Remove your cap hat off at dinner table.
  • Place serviette or napkin on lap when seated.
  • Wait for everyone to be seated before starting to eat.
  • Don't stretch across the table,ask someone to pass what you want.
  • Say 'please' and 'thank  you' not only at dinner table but keep it in practice.
  • Don't talk when your mouth is full.
  • Don't stuff your food in your mouth.
  • Cut your food to mouth size pieces,don't just stab your meat and take bites from the fork.
  • Chew with your mouth closed always.
  • Don't smack with your lips noisily.
  • If the food is hot,don't blow on it.Wait for it to cool or eat from the edges where it is cooler.
  • Don't wave your cutlery around as it is dangerous.

 
  • You must place your cutlery on the edge of the plate when not in use.
  • Use your cutlery; not your hands to eat.
  • Don't put your knife in your mouth.
  • Don't play with food and DO NOT pass rude comments about the food.
  • Don't take foods from other people's plate at the table.
  • Ask for second helpings,if you are still hungry,don't just help yourself.
  • Sit up straight,no slouching,no elbows on the table.
  • Ask to be excused from the table.
  • Don't pick or blow your nose at the table;excuse yourself from the table.
BASIC TABLE SETTING:

 
  • The order of placing utensils on the table is from left to right,is:Fork,plate,knife and spoon.
  • Knife blade always face the plate.
  • The napkin goes to the left of the fork,or on the plate.
  • The bread and butter knife is optional.
DINNER ETIQUETTE: When to sit:When all women are seated,the men sit down. PRAYERS: If your hostess or host asks you to join hands or bow your head,try to keep up with the ritual.Conversely,if you feel stronger about your religious traditions and are in a home of a person who does not practice prayers before meal,then be meek and humble and say your prayer according to your own religion silently and reverently to yourself and proceed with the meal. Unfold napkin:
  • Wait for the host or hostess to take his or her napkin off the table and place it on his or her lap before you place your napkin on your lap.
  • Unfold your napkin in one smooth motion.Avoid 'snapping or 'shaking' it open.
Posture: Don't sit stiffly or slouch back in your chair.Sit straight with hands resting on your lap. When to begin eating:
  • Begin eating only after all the other guests are served and the host or guest of honor has started to eat.
  • If there is no guest of honor to host,begin eating after everyone has been served.
  • At large events begin eating only when the guests on each side of you have been served.
Eating quietly: The essence of table manner is unobtrusiveness,a courtesy that includes eating quietly.Noise impedes conversation.Scratching a plate or loudly chewing is unpleasant to listen and considered impolite. Eating slowly: Savour the meal and eat slowly.It encourages conversation and is a sign of politeness. Dropped food: If you drop food on your table linen or floor,use your napkin to retrieve it and ask a waiter for a new napkin.If you spill any liquid,use your napkin to clean up the mess. Something caught in your teeth: When food is caught between the teeth that is annoying or uncomfortable,wait to remove it privately. One thing at a time: Do  one thing at a time at the table.If you want to sip water,rest your fork or spoon on your plate. Finger food: When finger food is taken from a tray,place it on the plate.Don't lick your fingers,use a napkin.If you are in a doubt,whether to use your fingers or a utensil you eat a particular food,watch the people around you and follow them.If you are still in a doubt then use your common sense,use a fork which is a very versatile implement. Courtesy:

Always say the magical word "THANK YOU" when is served to you. Using a finger bowl : If you encounter a finger bowl dip your fingers into the water and then dry them with your napkin. Placement of napkin on your lap right away!!! Once you are seated by the host,the first and foremost thing you should do is pick up your napkin and with out flicking it violently,unfold it and place it comfortably on your lap.let it lay on your lap till you finish your meal or you have an urgency to go to the washroom. Wipe your mouth with care: During the meal,you may need to wipe your mouth at certain promptings so to wipe your mouth,gently dab your mouth with the napkin.It is also very important that you use your napkin to dab away your mouth before sipping water or any other beverages,so that you don't leave any greasy mark on the lip of the glass. Do not use the napkin as a handkerchief :
  • At no stage during the meal should you use your napkin like a tissue.
  • Paper as a means to blow your nose.just excuse yourself from the table if required,and visit the washroom instead.
Be careful when you get up: If you really need a trip to the washroom during the meal,excuse yourself from the table and place your napkin neatly on the lap of your seat not on the arm or the top of the seat until you return.Never place it back onto the table during the meal. Never wear your napkins like a cravat: Toddlers wear bibs,not adults. Wrap up at the end of the meal:

The host or hostess signal that you have reached the end of the meal by placing his or her napkin on the table beside the plate;never on the plate.Just mimic this gesture  (placing your own napkin on the table beside the plate) and thank your host for a wonderful meal if you can. TIPS: If you drop your napkins,kindly ask the host for a fresh one and avoid disturbing other diners for picking it up.Simply leave it until the end of the meal and place it up on the table afterwards.Avoid using too much if possible. WARNING: Avoid using your napkin on other guests at the table within your vicinity.It's childish and un mannerly. USAGE OF DIFFERENT TYPES OF UTENSILS: To put on a good impression you must know which utensils to use and for what purpose while dining. UTENSILS PLACEMENT:

  • Forks go on the left with the salad fork first,and then the dinner fork beside the plate.
  • On the right side of the plate you will find the knife,appetizer or salad knife,spoon,soup spoon and oyster fork.
  • The knife blade should be positioned with the cutting edge closest to the plates.The fork and knife closest to the plate are for eating your main course.
  • The dessert fork or spoon in most cases will be placed parallel or diagonal to the edges of the table near the top of your plate.
  • A dessert spoon is to be held in the right hand to cut and put a bite into the mouth.It is held in the left hand, tines downward.
PROPER  EATING TECHNIQUES:
  • When helping yourself with the soup you should use the bowl shaped or larger oval spoon.Keep the soup bowl firmly on the table,never try to tilt it.Scoop the soup away from your starting at the center of the bowl.Bring the spoon to your mouth and tilt it, while sipping soup from the edge without making any slurping noise.
  • When you drink water,tea,coffee or any other fizzy drinks,put down your utensils before picking up the glass or cup.
  • After you use each piece of utensil,rest it on the edge of the plate;don't keep it back on the linen.
  • Don't use your utensils to point or gesture.
USAGE OF DIFFERENT TYPES OF GLASSES : At a meal,two or three courses are served and less stemware is required.The table setting should be uncrowded and there should be room to arrange stemware in any way one chooses.

  STEM ARRANGEMENTS:
  • The arrangement of software is based on space.At a formal multi course meal,there is a lot of tableware,including a water goblet and two or three wine glasses.It save space,stemware is arranged in the shape of a triangle or a diamond.
  • In a triangle arrangement,the dessert glass forms the highest forms.The water goblet is angled to the lower left of the dessert glass and the glasses for red and wine glasses are placed on the lower right side.When sherry glass is served,the sherry glass is placed on the lower right of the white wine glass.
  • The Diamond shape is the same as the triangle arrangement,except the white wine glass is angled to the lower left of the red wine glass,and the sherry glass to the lower left of the white wine glass.
ORDER OF USE: Stemware is placed on the table in the order of use.They are held by the stem,not the bowl. WATER GOBLET:
  • Water is taken throughout a four to five course of meal that incorporates a variety of seasonings,the goblet is placed closest to the hand,approximately 1 inch above the tip of the dinner knife to eliminate hitting the goblet when the dinner knife is lifted for use .
  • However,at a simple two - to - three course meal,fewer seasonings are incorporated in the menu,and generally water is not served unless the menu is spicy.But when water is served,the goblet is placed above the tip of the dinner knife.
SHERRY GLASS:
  • The sherry glass is placed on the table when sherry is served.Sherry is an ingredient,usually an appetizer of soup.On an uncrowded table,the sherry glass is placed on the right side of the wine glass,in a position closest to the hand.
  • However,when space on the table is crowded,the sherry glass is placed to the left front of the white wine glass.
JUICE GLASS: The juice glass is placed in the center of the cover on a small  under plate when juice is served as a first course :for example, tomato juice at dinner and orange juice at breakfast.If the juice is served to accompany a meal,the glass is placed directly on the table at the top right of the cover. UTENSIL ETIQUETTE: Soup spoon etiquette:The soup spoon is made with oval or round bowls just perfect to have soup comfortably.An oval soup spoon has an oval bowl,which makes it easy for pieces of food in soup from the tip.The bowl of a  round soup spoon has a curved edge,which allows the clear or thick soup to be sipped from the side. FISH KNIFE AND FORK ETIQUETTE : The fish knife is used to separate the soft flesh of the fish from the body.The handle of the fish knife is held in the right hand towards the end of the shank,between the thumb and the first two fingers to separate flesh from the fish.The tip of the blade is used to fillet fish,lift the skeleton from the body and remove small bones.Fish fork is used in the left hand.        DESSERT FORK AND SPOON ETIQUETTE : The dessert fork is held in the left hand,tines downward .Dessert spoon is held in the right hand to cut and put away a bite to the mouth. TEASPOON ETIQUETTE : While drinking an iced beverage the user holds the teaspoon in the glass against the rim with the index finger where it remains until the glass is cleared from the table. PLACE SETTING ETIQUETTE : DINNER PLATE:
  • Dinner plate is  the center of the place setting.
  • When you have finished eating do not push the plate away from you.Instead,place both your knife and fork across the center of the plate,handles to the right.
  • Between bites,your fork and knife are placed on the table,handles to the right,not touching the table at all.
SOUP BOWL:
  • Soup bowl may be placed on the dinner plate.
  • If u need to set your soup spoon down,place it on the bowl.Do not put it on the dish under the bowl until finished.
BREAD PLATE:
  • The placement of the bread plate is just above the tip of the fork.
  • Bread should be broken into bite sized pieces,not cut.
  • Butter only the piece you decide to eat.
  • When butter is served,put some on your bread plate and use as your requirement.
NAPKINS:
  • Napkins are placed to the left of the fork with the fold on the left.
  • Sometimes they are placed under the forks or on the plate.
DINNER FORK:
  • It is always placed to the left of the plate.
  • Not more than 3 forks are put to the left of the plate.
  • If there are 3 forks,they are usually salad,fish and meat in order of use from outside in.
  • An oyster fork always goes to the right of the soup spoon.
BUTTER KNIFE: It is placed horizontally on the bread plate. DESSERT SPOON: It is placed above the spoon. CAKE FORK: It is also placed above the fork. DINNER KNIFE:
  • It is placed to the right of the plate.
  • Sometimes there are multiple knives,perhaps for meat,fish,and salad in order of use from outside in.
TEA SPOON: It is put to the right of the dinner knife. SOUP SPOON: It is kept to the right of the tea spoon. WATER GLASS: It is put just above the tip of the knife. RED WINE GLASS: To the right of the water glass. WHITE WINE GLASS:
  • To the right of the red wine glass.
  • It is held on its stem to maintain the  chill.
COFFEE CUP and SAUCER: If preferred, bring at time of coffee service.
By ARSHI JAVED Save

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